I don’t know if this has ever happened to you, but it happened to me for the first time on Thursday evening. My husband was out of town and it was one of those rare warm night in San Francisco. I was playing with both my kids, Ryan who is one and Jt who is two almost three on the deck outside our kitchen. We were having a great time, when all of the sudden my two year old Jt runs into the house, grabs the sliding glass door and shuts it tight. He locks it saying “Sorry mommy, you can’t come in”. I look in through the glass in shock, I can’t believe he just did that. My mind starts racing, should I get mad and pound on the door? Should I climb the fence and knock on my neighbors back door to and come around the front? I then look down and realize Ryan is still on the deck with me. Which is better than being in the kitchen with his brother.
Suddenly I remember a story one of my friends told me about a year and half ago about when her four year old daughter locked her out on her balcony with her one month old on the floor inside. She started by yelling and getting mad, it didn’t get her anywhere her four year just continued to play on the floor and smile. Then she tried to get in through a window on the side, locked of course. At this point she was madder than ever and decided to try reverse psychology. She pretended she didn’t want to come in and that she was having fun playing outside and had something great to show her daughter. This eventually worked.
Remembering this story, I sat calmly outside and started to read a book to Ryan, Jt of course didn’t want to miss out so he unlocked the sliding door and also came out. Now we are trying to reinforce that it’s not a game to lock people out.
In the future we will change that door to be able to use a key to get back in if it’s locked from the inside.
Upon reflecting on this incident, it has reminded me the importance of sharing these hard experiences with others, and to give other moms ideas of what to do if anything like this happens to them.
If you have been locked out by your children, would love to hear from you on how you solved it. Write your comments below.